Entering Paradise Pleased with Pleasure

In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

Insisting Islamic Intimacy

In some parts of the world marrying young is a social norm

IN SOUTH Asia and sub-Saharan Africa 38% of women marry before they are 18 years old. Child marriages, as defined by UNICEF, the United Nations’ children’s agency, are those undertaken by women under the age of 18 and include unions where a woman and a man live together as if they were married. According to a UNICEF report, most child marriages take place between the ages of 15 and 18, but in three countries, Niger, Chad and Bangladesh, more than a third of women aged 20-24 were already married by the age of 15. Such practices often flout the law: whilst the legal age of marriage in India is 18 around half of the Indian women surveyed were already married by that age.

It is reported that ‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:
If I had ten days left to live, and I knew I would die by the end of them, and I had enough time to get married, I would get married for fear of temptation (fitnah).
Sa’îd b. Mansûr, Al-Sunan article 493.

If he whose character and deen (practice of religion) pleases you, approaches you in marriage, then marry him, for if you don't, their will be fitna in the land and vast corruption. (Tirmidhi and others, see Sunan Tirmidhi #1085 and it is hassan (reliable) as per Sahih ul-Jaami' #270). ("fitna" here can be understood to refer to the temptation for fornication, enmity and the cutting off of relations among the people and relatives, and the spreading of hatred)

‘Ikrimah, Sumay’ and Kurayb report that Ibn ‘Abbâs – Allah be pleased with them – said to them:
Marry, for if the servant of Allah commits fornication Allah snatches the light of îmân from him, and may or may not return it to him.
Ibn Sa’d in Al-Tabaqât Al-Kubrâ Vol.5 p287.

There are three people whom God will surely help: a warrior in the cause of God, a slave who wants to free himself by a payable contract and whoever seeks chastity by marriage.


Unfortunately though, even after much emphasis from Islam on the importance of marriage, many people still fail to acknowledge its significance. A relationship between two people is not just supposed to be a short, action-packed romance story from the studios of Hollywood (which inevitably comes to an end sooner rather than later), but it is supposed to be a serious, long-term relationship in which both individuals are content and comfortable with one another. A relationship should not exist of a one-night-stand as is the case now especially amongst students of universities, colleges and even schools. A relationship should show that both partners are ready to sacrifice and endure for their partner; the way towards this is through marriage. Until the world realises the importance of marriage as well as its benefits and advantages, it will be faced with the endless problems caused by neglecting marriage.

Marriage and Masturbation
One type of indecent practise, which has crept into the youngsters of today, is the practise of masturbation. This is partly due to the fact that many people decide to marry very late on in their lives, (which is not in accordance with what The Prophet Muhammad
Islam has condemned the act of masturbation simply because it is harmful towards a person not only physically but also morally. Masturbation contributes to the weakening of the sexual organs. One reason why people do not think that masturbating is wrong is because that is what most people are led into thinking. I can remember very well from my time in school when the teacher actually encouraged masturbation by saying that one should masturbate whenever one feels the urge and that one should not consider it to be wrong or immoral. I myself found this fairly shocking due to the fact that I came from a background where acts such as masturbation were shunned.
http://www.inter-islam.org/Lifestyle/marry.htm

Three things you should not delay

It is reported that Al-Ahnaf b. Qays – Allâh have mercy on him – said:
“Restraint is praiseworthy except in three things.” People asked, “And what are they o Abû Bahr?” He replied, “Make haste to do the righteous deed, hurry to conduct the funeral of your deceased, and marry the girl in your charge to a suitable man [as soon as you find him.]”
Abû Bakr Al-Daynûrî, Al-Mujâlasah wa Jawâhir Al-’Ilm 6:307.
http://www.sayingsofthesalaf.net/index.php/category/marriage/#ixzz1Hg7Rziup


‘Do not delay in three things; 1) The offering of the obligatory prayer. 2) The offering of the funeral prayer when the deceased’s body is present . 3) The marriage of a woman when her couple is found’

One important purpose of the Islamic marriage contract is that which makes sexual intercourse legal. This is supported by various Hadiths and quotations:
Sahih Bukhari, Book 62, #81:[4]

• Narrated 'Uqba: The Prophet said: "The stipulations [in the marriage contract] most entitled to be abided by are those with which you are given the right to enjoy the (women's) private parts."

Al-Mughni (by Ibn Qudaamah), Kitab al Nikah:[5]

• ... the Prophet [said]: "The most deserving of conditions to be fulfilled are those by means of which sexual intercourse becomes permissible for you."

MARRIAGE, SAFE FROM THE DEVIL

A fundamental benefit of marriage is to be safe from the devil and to safeguard the private parts. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "If a man marries, half of his religion is saved. Fear Allah for the remaining half."

The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "let one who is unable to marry fast, as fast for him is the means of controlling passion."

There is no benefit in a thing of which there is no pleasure. Allah created pleasure of the world with the object that if people have pleasure they will be eager to have lasting pleasure of the next world. To get this pleasure divine service is necessary.

Marriage is a means of saving oneself from the oppression of sexual passion. The Heart is the root of all actions of a traveller towards the next world. Ibn Abbas RA said: "The worship of a man does not become perfect without divine service. Man has been created weak." Akramah and Mujahid explain that man cannot be patient regarding women.

Race towards mercy of Allah and fight shaitan fiercely. Sisters helping brother is the greatest worship for females and thats because of the desperate need for good wife for the continuous gain of pleasure of the creator through more devoted worship and gain of perpetual pleasure. Urge sisters, parents and the community to make marriage far easier and flexible. Teenagers should be told about birth control and be allowed to gain their right of pleasure by marrying as soon as possible.

Allah says: "When there falls the darkness of night, seek refuge from its evils." The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "0 Allah! I seek refuge to Thee from the evils of my ears, my heart and myself." He said: "I pray to Thee for purity of my mind and protection of my private parts."

The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "If the look of man falls on my woman, let him turn it towards himself and cohabit with his wife, in that case his evil desire will go away."

Jaber RA reported that once the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) looked to a certain woman. He soon went to his wife Zainab RA and performed his necessity. After that he came out and said: "If a woman comes in front, she comes as a devil. If one of you sees a woman who pleases him, let him come to his wife as what is near that woman is also near his wife."


The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "Do not go to a woman in absence of her husband as the devil runs through your veins like the circulation of blood." We asked him: "In your case also, O Rasoolullah? He said: "In my case also but Allah helped me over him and he submitted to me." This means: "I have been saved from the machinations of the devil."
~ Ghazali, Ihya ~

There are very few situations where it is permissible to speak about the faults of another person. One must be very careful not to let the existence of these exceptions allow transgression into sin. Some of these situations are:

1. to protect Muslims from the evil of another person, including situations where one is asked to vouch for the integrity of a marriage prospect

2. when the person being talked about does not conceal his violations of Divine commands

3. to describe any fault of a patient before a physician for purposes of treatment criticism about a narrator of traditions (hadith).

Easier for the men to lower gaze when married. They can have a greater vision for their Akhirah.

Sayyiduna Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
When a man calls his wife for sexual intimacy and she refuses him, thus he spends the night in anger, then the angels curse her until morning. (Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim, See: Riyad al-Salihin, No. 281)

Talq ibn Ali (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
When a man calls his wife for sexual intimacy, then she should come, even if she is (busy) in the cooking area. (Sunan al-Tirmizi & Sunan al-Nasai)

Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
By the one in whose hands is my life, there is not a man who calls his wife for sexual intimacy and she refuses him except that Allah becomes angry with her until her husband is pleased with her.(Sahih Muslim, No. 1436)

The above and other narrations of the beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) clearly signify the importance of the wife obeying her husband in his request for sexual intimacy. It will be a grave sin, in normal circumstances, for the wife to refuse her husband, and even more, if this leads the husband into the unlawful.

Imam al-Nawawi (Allah have mercy on him) states in his commentary on the Hadith of Abu Huraira stated above:
This Hadith indicates that it is unlawful (haram) for the wife to refuse her husband for sexual intimacy without a valid reason. Menstruation will not be considered a valid reason, for the husband has a right to enjoy her from above the garment (on top of cloths). (Sharh Sahih Muslim, P. 1084)
However, this does not in any way mean that the husband may force himself over her for sexual gratification. The Hadith mentions that, the husband spends the night in anger or being displeased, which clearly shows that he must restrain himself from forcing himself over her. Had this not been the case, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would have advised the husband to gain his right in a forceful manner.

Similarly, it should be remembered here that, the wife must obey her husband in his request for sexual intimacy unless she has a valid reason. She must obey him as long as she does not have to forego her own rights. As such, if the wife is ill, fears physical harm or she is emotionally drained, etc; she will not be obliged to comply with her husband’s request for sexual intimacy. Rather, the husband would be required to show her consideration.
Allah Most High says:

On no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it can bear (al-Baqarah, 286)
Many times it is observed that the husband demands from his wife to fulfil his sexual needs no matter what state she is in, and uses the above quoted Hadiths to impose himself over her.
If the wife is not in a state to engage in sexual activities and has a genuine and valid reason, and the husband forces her, then he will be sinful. Muslim husbands should realize that their wives are also humans and not some type of machines that can be switched on whenever they desire!
Finally, these matters should be resolved with mutual understanding, regard for one another, love, gentleness and putting one’s spouse before one’s self.

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) has reported to have said:
None of you can be a true believer until they love for their brother what they love for themselves.

May Allah swt grant us guidance towards perpetual pleasure.

Tough to see. Easy to Be. Islamically.

Tough 2 C. E Z 2 B. Islamic Solutions to Hardships.

Why make things more difficult and tough? Its far better left simple and easy. If you make things hard people will find and stick to easier way. When you don’t allow or facilitate enjoying of halal people will fall into haram. How many adverts are perverted and directs us towards our own destruction? When you do good and set a good example by marrying then you are displaying live Islamic advert for the gratification of Allah and truly those who do so will be victorious.

How much more points is gained for being in the caring hands of husband wife relationship. Why make hard when you are made of semen and you are dead most of the time in history. Since your alive life is nonexistant when compared to the time spent lying on the grave. So the wise would do what ever it takes to relish when they are alive by prepairing their akhirah and enjoy the best of life- to get married.

Females has the greatest asset and sharing it with husband is like charity for men. The longer they keep to themselves the closer to expiry date they are reaching. Enjoy and let those who have the right to enjoy private parts of spouses enjoy by making the whole aspect of marriage easier before any accident that damages approaches. So its better to leave complex desires when choosing spouses and try enriching each other’s life through simplistic approach. Be pleasant, have pleasing intentions then open up the door to halal as you don’t know if you will do tonight.

Waiting for perfect man? He's masturbating honestly. No matter how humble and good they may seem all of men has a fundamental defect. Men think desperately about women. Some may seem in control but the truth is the most discerning amongst us Bill Clinton can’t control it. So the sooner you get married and facilitate actions that deters us from heedlessness and help develop relationships with spouses the better it is for the generations to come as they won’t have to indulge in masturbation or porno. When parents acknowledges the problem then takes steps to resolve Allah swt guides them and their offspring and that’s one of the reason why the supplication of parents are accepted.

The longer the man waits the more porno he watches and he becomes so addicted to it that even after marriage it doesn’t stop especially if the wife isn’t cooperating to his fantasies. You might be thinking no my man won’t do that but trust us brothers the chances are the longer the man is not married the more addicted and active he’s indulging and becoming immune to the haram. So sisters its your duty as guardians of your brothers to assist and cooperate both before and after marriage. If you wish not to marry due to any reason then its obligation to assist the brother to get him married or else as the hadith states correctly grave issues will afflict the ummah and the humanity as we can see increased HIV in Muslim nations which is affecting all levels of society.

Increased in Porno production with Islamic themes shows the amount of interest to utilise our fantasies. Many of us know and may use the phrase of ‘’the youth is our future’’, then why would you want to test the youth with things that even you couldn’t handle. If so then why wouldn’t you start to do good and really help those brothers and sisters as well to get married. As it is clearly half of the deen as we know, and it also helps sisters and brothers to lower their gazes, not to forget that it also saves their time and energy on doing halal things only.

There are clearly so many things that have happened before and think this as an example, that the People of the Book used to be people with clear rules and statements, they changed them and started to mutilate and change the true word of God. InshAllaah Muslims would stay out of this and stay on following and living according to the true teachings of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

But as we can see People of the Book did have these issues with the marriage and really do you ever think that how are they in this position now? Do you just think that it came as a clear blink from the sky? Truly Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala send them warnings and messengers to guide them. But they rebelled and disbelieved in them, and so they changed the words sent to them so that they would be able to follow their lusts and do ‘’whatever they wish to’’.

Sadly but truly we follow the People of the Book in many ways, Alhamdulillaah we acknowledge the truth and see the miracles and signs which came to us. But if we keep on doing things such as preventing marriage and halal things from happening, and making it easier to do haram. Honestly look at the things which surround us think about the punishments which happened to the civilisations before us, and before those who were before us.

How many of them went on committing sodomy and praised it as thing so normal, how far do you think that we are from this? Only Allah knows best and truly He is the All-Knowing, All-Wise. But it is our responsibility to try and prevent things that are no good from happening and if we prefer that we should only sit and wait then we can certainly only think what is the pain that we cause to the future generations, because of our slumber. Now its the time to restart and revolutionise from innerself and start application of holistic Islamic approach on every aspect of life. After all aren’t we created for the glorification of our lord?

When you think it clearly and use the mind which Allah gave you so that you would make better things, and prevent evil. Understand and pay attention that it is always someone who has to take the first step. If we are not the one’s to take it then we can only be sure that if there are future generations to come some people among those generations, will possibly be the ones taking the first step and what would be better than to take a step towards something that is good and for the benefit and well being of the youth and perhaps even for the good of our children and even for our grandchildren and Allah knows best.

Advertisements like these stand out and try to make Islam and the Islamic marriage to look bad. So here are few of them and if we would stand up for change and start to get married and also doing and encouraging people to do good/ halal and prevent harm/ haram from happening, and so it would be possible that even non-Muslims and some Muslims alike would get the real meaning and picture about the marriage and about the important things in Islam. Inshaa Allah we will be victorious and will be guided.

Why hide the truth. Parents should frankly teach alternative techniques concerning intimate relationships for better welfare of children. Future generations are more challenging and if we dont cooperate they are straight into the pit.

Do as much good as possible don't leave things for latter hoping things will get better. Gradually things rot with time and only our good actions will reap. The longer time you let your spouse wait the worse things get due to increased anxiety, stress and ultimating encouraging entrance to door of haram since it becomes easier than halal.

Integration of Muslims to communities in Europe and USA is of great concern. Anyone acquainted in basic Islamic knowledge would realize that our beloved prophet Muhamed (PBUH) catalyzed integration of diverse differing tribes and dynasties. through marriages that truly fosters love, care and mutual welfare. Those sincerely looking for solutions to dis-fragmented society would be shocked with the pragmatic successful examples set by the prophets peace be upon them and those who followed their light.

If you have children would you like to see them in pain? Then how you allow the child of your sister in Islam to live in vain pain? Is it because you want to see if he's really a man? If thats the case then expect him to fail because you are testing to the limit of failure to come to your conclution.

Remember death a lot and try prioritizing as you should the actions that yield higher points. Just like the way you prioritize your life decisions based on actions that yield the most pleasure. Think straight without barriers.

One God.

Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim.
Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

So brothers and sisters today I would like to speak about the thing that God is one, without partners or helpers. So God is only one and we, as muslims believe that God is one, He sent messengers to ppl in different times to different ppl. And all these prophets may God's peace be upon of them all. All of them spread message about one God, Who has prepared unlimited reward after death for those who believe in Him, and follow His rules and the rules of His prophets who brought the commandments of God, to humanity. And for those who do not believe in Him or choose not to follow His commandments, for those He has prepared a punishment and great torment. But this is applying only to those who have heard about the message and chosen not to follow it, so those who deny after hearing from it have the choise to follow or choose, not to follow. And those who have not heard or known about it, those God will judge differently and He knows best. And even if you are a muslim, it doesn't guarantee that you would be in paradise it is quite the opposite. Because when you know about the message, you have to work accordingly to it and if you choose not to follow it, i.e. you choose to deny the rules and limits that God has set before us. And so you are making the decision not to follow, and then you are doing prohibited things knowingly.

So there are things that God has prohibited from us, and things that are allowed to us. To put it bluntly we could say that, the things that are prohibited are things of no good. They cause hardship, sickness, evil doing, hurting someone's fellings or something that could be considered as evil or negative. And the things that are allowed are the opposite, so they are of good to us, they may heal us, they help us deal with others justly and most importantly they help us. As when we do prohibited things we cause bad to happen to us, in this life like in the next life. And the things that God has prohibited are because of something, so they are of no good to us. For an example, we as muslims are prohibited from drinking alcohol. And if we look at the modern day things we can quite well see that why it is prohibited, some ppl get quite aggressive, they cause sometimes vandalism, crime and all these things which are of no good to us, nor to those who are found as victims to it. So it is better and God even rewards us for not doing things that are prohibited, and He makes our daily lives much easier in this world too, because then we are not doing things which consume time from us. Because time is one of those things that cannot be wasted for nothing, as we all know every second is unique, we cannot take it back nor live it again. And every heartbeat is ''unhealthy'' or away from us, as that is one less heartbeat for the heart to beat. :) So we should be occupied in doing good, and forbidding and trying to prevent evil/ bad things from happening, i.e. using every second for something that is useful, which is benefitting for us and to those that we are trying to help.

So what we really should do is, to make every day worth living for. Trying to strive for the pleasure of God, so that we would be able to have our resting place in Jannah (Paradise). And that we maybe would be protected from the Hellfire, from it's torment and punishment as it is something so bad that no one would, wish it on anyone. But it is God who decides, He is going to judge us without wronging any soul as He says in the Holy Quran:

4:40 Verily, God does not wrong [anyone] by as much as an atom's weight; and if there be a good deed, He will multiply it, and will bestow out of His grace a mighty reward.

InshAllaah this writing did make you think about your deeds, and what should be done and what should not be done. And inshAllaah that we would be striving in the way of Allaah subhanahu wa ta'ala, so that we would help and make something that would benefit us. May Allaah forgive me if I may have stated something out of my knowledge. And may the peace and blessings of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala be upon you. :)

JazakAllaah Khair.

Imitating.

Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, brothers and sisters.

InshAllaah you have been living good lives, striving for the pleasure and reward of Allaah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and that we would be among those who would live good lives here so that we could be among those who abide and have, a resting place in Jannah. And that we would be protected from the torment and punishment of the hellfire. And with Allaah is the pleasure and goodness.

So I thought that I should start and write something about imitating, today and inshAllaah it will help us in this life so that we wouldnt be falling into it. So the truth is that it is forbidden for us, as muslims to imitate any celebrity, leader or anyone who is not pious nor doing good. Because there are Hadiths which tell us, that Muhammad Sallallaahu Alayhi Salaam forbidded us from imitating. Because it makes one to behave and be like the one who he or she is imitating. But we should be taking our examples from Muhammad Sallallaahu Alayhi Salaam, as there is the Sunnah (Prophet's (saw) way/ example) which we should take as an example. Because in Sunnah it clearly states that how Prophet Sallallaahu Alayhi Salaam used to do things, how he reacted to some things, very much that how he used to live his daily life, how he treated others and these kinds of things. So as muslims we should take him as our example, not any celebrity because we can see pretty much that what they do. And mostly what they do is of no good, they use drugs, sing about non good things and they do all that just to get money. Mostly as it is their job and how they get the bread on the table.

So here are some of the Hadiths which I told about, not specifically but mentioned that there are some of Prophet's Sallallaahu Alayhi Salaam saying that imitating is forbidden.

-The prophet (S.A.W.) said, "You will surely follow the ways, steps, or traditions of those who came before you, span by span and yard by yard (very closely) even if they entered a lizard's hole you will enter it." The companions asked, "Oh prophet, you mean the Jews and Christians?" so he answered, "Who else!" [Reported by Imam Bukhari]

-The second hadith is "He is not one of us, he who imitates others. Do not imitate either the Jews or the Christians." [Reported by ImamsTermithy & Abu-Dawd]

-The third hadith is "If one imitates another nation he will be from them." [Reported by Imam Abu-Dawd]

And the things that we shouldnt be imitating, are things that the non-muslims do in their religion, their worship and their holidays. But there are things that are allowed to be imitated, such as the engineering, astronomy, computer science, and the new means of communications, etc. These things, of course, are allowed or obligatory to be used by Muslims according to their needs. The proofs to this assumption are:

- The digging of the trench around Madinah in the Battle of Al-Ahzab, which was done by the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) and his companions as a defense system was imported from Non-Muslims (Persian).
Taken from http://islam1.org/khutub/Imitation_of_None-Muslims.htm concerning the topic of imitating.

So inshAllaah this has made you think about this, brothers and sisters. As this is really a thing that we should be aware of, as there are these modern day ''idols''. Celebrities and other ppl who are imitated while they serve no good to anyone (not even to themselves sometimes). JazakAllaah Khair, and inshAllaah this has provided some information and knowledge to you. May Allaah subhanahu wa ta'la forgive me and those who may have said something that they shouldn't have said in their ignorance.

Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, brothers and sisters.